‘Tis the season for wedded bliss. Brides everywhere are dieting and color coordinating so that they will have the perfect wedding. If you are one of the stressed out brides who is finding she is turning into a “bridezilla” or a “pouty princess”, here are some things to consider to help take the edge off.
What’s the point?
Always remember the point of the wedding. The point of the wedding is to become one with the love of your life. This is the person that you plan to spend the rest of your life with. He will be the guardian of your heart whether or not the flowers were properly rotated six degrees to the left. No limousine ride or dove release will make the love that the two of you share any richer. If you believe your day will be ruined by something other than the groom not showing up, you seriously need to reorganize your priorities and way of thinking.
It’s not all about you.
Let’s face it. You aren’t going to marry yourself. The only reason you have been blessed with the title of “bride-to-be” is because someone chose you to be his lawfully wedded wife. Don’t take this day to completely ignore him. This is as much his day as it is yours. Change your phrasing from “my day” to “our day. If you choose the chapel, let him choose the honeymoon hotel. If you choose the color let him choose the colors. Share and compromise now. If you can’t do that without conflict, your road to happily ever after will likely be short lived. This is one day in the rest of your lives together. Don’t let it define your entire relationship.
Your family and friends are not your servants.
With all of the stress that brides subject themselves to, they are left with no other choice but to defer some of that burden to their loyal and faithful servants. Even the nicest of brides will undoubtedly order her mother or sister to run a list of errands for her wedding day. It is a reasonable request for a nervous bride to ask the people she trusts most to handle the deeds that cannot be mishandled. It is not reasonable to shout at them and to ask them to do things that you can do yourself.
The thing to remember most about a wedding is that it is a day of celebrating the union between two people in love. Do your best not to tarnish something so naturally wonderful with salty behavior, wasteful spending and cruel treatment of the very people you will call on after your wedding day for advice.
The Red Housewife has spoken and will henceforth forever hold her peace.