Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Dirty Red II: Lingerie Questions Answered

There seems to be a trend forming. I have more questions from lost husbands daring to venture into the lingerie boutique. I am honored to answer your questions. Your names are in my vault and your answers are in my blog. Keep your questions coming!

What's a boustier?

Pronounced boost-ee-ay, a bustier (alternately bustiere) is like a corset but its primary purpose is to push up the bust by tightening against the upper midriff and forcing the breasts up, while gently shaping the waist. It is typically worn as a push- up bra under a low-backed dress, or as a camisole for outer wear.

How can I get my beautiful wife to wear sexy lingerie like you have on Facebook? I don't want to spend money on something that won't be worn. She used to spend an hour in Victoria's Secret. Now she won't even look at the store when we pass by. Is it a mommy thing?

Yes, it is a mommy thing. Chances are her baby gave her curves she didn't have before or exaggerated what was already there. As a former Victoria's Secret employee I can honestly tell you that their lingerie was intended for teens and 20 somethings that are an A to a C cup. Full figured women are not likely to find lingerie that compliments them there. In fact. the add campaigns are focused on adding curves where there are none. This is why I prefer places like Frederick's of Hollywood. It focuses on dressing the curves that are already there. If you have one in your neighborhood, you need to take her there.

Your wife sounds like she needs a confidence booster. Try complimenting her every chance you get. For example, take her to Dirty Red and say, "Damn, you would look so hot in that." She will try to deflect. But gently soothe her ego by describing how beautiful she already is and how much more you would be turned on by seeing her in the different styles. Your desire and increased attraction to her in lingerie will equal her confidence in wearing it. But be patient and don't push. When she wears it, even if her muffin top is too much for the lingerie to handle, treat her like she's world's last cupcake. Steer her toward something that fits better by buying it as a gift. Your admiration is the key to her confidence.

What is a Demi Bra?

Demi bras, also known as balconette bras, are half-cup bras with wide-set straps and a straight bust line. Often seamed or boned, they promote cleavage and a frame-like effect. These offer less support but enable low-cut garments to be worn without the bra being seen. Demi bras may be designed to provide lift as do push-up bras. They are not made for support so if your wife is full figured you make sure you buy the bra from a full figure specific boutique or designer.

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